Devyn is still in his hitting phase. I really hope this will stop soon. He is being so difficult. Chris and I just went to this parenting class about behaviors in kids with autism at For Oc Kids the other day. It was pretty beneficial. Unfortunately, the class is only 2 sessions and only an hour and a half each. It was REALLY nice being able to be around people who understand what I'm feeling. It also was kind of weird too though because there were much older parents. I think we were the youngest ones there even though I feel really really old. They gave us hand outs and charts to chart his behaviors he has day to day. Next class we are supposed to go over them I think.
I finally got a hold of his teacher but she still didn't answer all my questions. I'm getting kind of annoyed with her. She rarely gives me updates. She is not good at responding to emails and even when she does she doesn't answer all my questions. When I call I end up leaving messages. UGH. But she did say that he does good with a calendar type thing with pictures and activities. So, I think I'm going to make him a calendar of things he does on a daily basis. Maybe it will help with his obsessive behaviors lately. He has been really obsessed with school and everything school related. I'm glad he loves school but when he has to have his backpack on and his lunch bag in his backpack WITH all his food in there all the time then there is a problem here!
I don't know how he will react on his school break..he will be on break from the June 15th till July 25th I believe. I might just go insane. I love him...but I have been having a lot of breakdowns lately with his behavior and just everything going on in general. I really wish I had more support with this. Or just more support in general. It is really sad how people are there for others now a days. Really makes me fear for the world my children will grow up in. I know the world wont be kind to Devyn as he grows older and I constantly worry about that..
Anyway, next weekend should be interesting. Devyn has his playgroup and then right after we are going to a birthday party. I'm always hesitant about going to those type of events now because of his meltdowns. I really hope he will be okay while we are there. Please cross your fingers for no hitting attacks!
Friday, June 10, 2011
Thursday, May 19, 2011
Update.
Well, I started writing a blog and somehow it got deleted even though I saved it. Now I cant remember what I wrote. Haha. Well, anyway, things have been pretty crazy around here. Lots of emotions.
Devyn is doing good in school. Still not eating a lot. He has been eating less actually. Since he has been going to school and getting up early he doesn't eat breakfast most of the time. At lunch (at school) he only eats a few snacks. Then he never eats dinner so we have to resort to a bowl of cereal. I keep trying to get him to eat. But, he has become very aggressive. He has been up and down with that. He likes to throw his food now. He has also started to hit and kick a lot. He has slapped me quite a few times in the fast few weeks. It is like this hitting popped out of nowhere. He has only hit me in the face once and that was a long time ago. The throwing is getting out of control too. He throws anything he sees! Most of the time it is when he is frustrated and he isn't getting what he wants. I'm trying to use firm direction but it is quite hard. I hope these phases of his eating and hitting go away soon!!
He is doing really good when first and then is used (his teacher told me). I have been using this a lot when I'm trying to talk to him. The other day he wanted something and I said first diaper then so and so (I cant exactly remember what it was). But, of course he had a fit and started throwing things so I put him in time out. He was crying and sitting there for awhile and then all of a sudden says first diaper! I was shocked and happy! I hope he really is understanding. It made me happy and I cried a little! heh. Sometimes the hitting and throwing can get to me and I give him and try to get him to stop but I am going to try really hard to stick to my guns and not give in even though it is hard.
Also, he just saw his developmental pediatrician and she gave me a referral for him to start receiving independent speech therapy (aside from what he is receiving at school). He has an evaluation next Friday. I am pretty happy about this because I have been trying for awhile to get him into speech but always got the run around.
His thyroid tests also came back and his levels are fine and she just wants to see him in 6 months. That is good news but now we just need to work on this behavior.
Things have been hard lately. My grandma just passed away. It still doesn't really seem like shes gone. She shattered her hip last month and had to have emergency surgery. After that she got an infection and passed away from that. My sister and I saw her the day before she died and after. I really hope she heard me. I loved her. She was such a strong women. She raised 9 kids all by herself. Needless to say she had a lot of grandkids and great grandkids. She never forgot an important moment in any of our lives. She will be truly missed and I will always remember her. Her memorial is tomorrow at the cemetery and then on Sunday we are going to have a family get together in her honor. Tomorrow is going to be hard..I love you grandma!!! <3<3
Rest in peace
Jeanne Louise Ihde
April 2,1933-April 29,2011
Devyn is doing good in school. Still not eating a lot. He has been eating less actually. Since he has been going to school and getting up early he doesn't eat breakfast most of the time. At lunch (at school) he only eats a few snacks. Then he never eats dinner so we have to resort to a bowl of cereal. I keep trying to get him to eat. But, he has become very aggressive. He has been up and down with that. He likes to throw his food now. He has also started to hit and kick a lot. He has slapped me quite a few times in the fast few weeks. It is like this hitting popped out of nowhere. He has only hit me in the face once and that was a long time ago. The throwing is getting out of control too. He throws anything he sees! Most of the time it is when he is frustrated and he isn't getting what he wants. I'm trying to use firm direction but it is quite hard. I hope these phases of his eating and hitting go away soon!!
He is doing really good when first and then is used (his teacher told me). I have been using this a lot when I'm trying to talk to him. The other day he wanted something and I said first diaper then so and so (I cant exactly remember what it was). But, of course he had a fit and started throwing things so I put him in time out. He was crying and sitting there for awhile and then all of a sudden says first diaper! I was shocked and happy! I hope he really is understanding. It made me happy and I cried a little! heh. Sometimes the hitting and throwing can get to me and I give him and try to get him to stop but I am going to try really hard to stick to my guns and not give in even though it is hard.
Also, he just saw his developmental pediatrician and she gave me a referral for him to start receiving independent speech therapy (aside from what he is receiving at school). He has an evaluation next Friday. I am pretty happy about this because I have been trying for awhile to get him into speech but always got the run around.
His thyroid tests also came back and his levels are fine and she just wants to see him in 6 months. That is good news but now we just need to work on this behavior.
Things have been hard lately. My grandma just passed away. It still doesn't really seem like shes gone. She shattered her hip last month and had to have emergency surgery. After that she got an infection and passed away from that. My sister and I saw her the day before she died and after. I really hope she heard me. I loved her. She was such a strong women. She raised 9 kids all by herself. Needless to say she had a lot of grandkids and great grandkids. She never forgot an important moment in any of our lives. She will be truly missed and I will always remember her. Her memorial is tomorrow at the cemetery and then on Sunday we are going to have a family get together in her honor. Tomorrow is going to be hard..I love you grandma!!! <3<3
Rest in peace
Jeanne Louise Ihde
April 2,1933-April 29,2011
Tuesday, April 12, 2011
losing my sanity.
Devyn has been driving me crazy lately. He is on a trial off his thyroid medication right now. Since he has been off his medication I have noticed that he is way more aggressive and violent. Especially towards autumn. He will NOT listen to me at all. All he does is just whine and whine and whine. I feel like I'm having a nervous breakdown. I have a lot of personal stuff going on as well and I have tried everything with him and nothing is working. I find myself yelling at him a lot now. I just cant get through to him. Since he has started preschool I haven't noticed an improvement in anything yet. I'm slowly losing hope. I just need a break. But I know that isn't possible.
He gets his blood drawn this weekend to test his thyroid levels so if they are off then that might contribute to the cause of his behavior. So, we will know in a few weeks.
I just feel like a horrible mom. I always try to be calm and gentle with him. But, now I just get so irritated. I cant have any time to myself. I feel so lost. I just need like 5 minutes to BREATHE.
:(
He gets his blood drawn this weekend to test his thyroid levels so if they are off then that might contribute to the cause of his behavior. So, we will know in a few weeks.
I just feel like a horrible mom. I always try to be calm and gentle with him. But, now I just get so irritated. I cant have any time to myself. I feel so lost. I just need like 5 minutes to BREATHE.
:(
Saturday, March 19, 2011
update
Devyn started preschool! He started on March 10th, picture day! haha. I took a bunch of pics of him on his first day. But, of course I dont have them on this computer. I need to start uploading pictures! Anywho, so far so good. No bad reports from his teachers. He started taking the bus last week too. The first day of him taking the bus was kinda horrible..he wouldnt get me put him in his seat so my husband had to do it. He was screaming of course, but by the second day the bus driver said he is a very good bus rider! It is so different not having him around. I am able to get more things done and quicker of course..But, by the time D gets home he takes a nap because he is so tired from school then he usually doesnt wake up till 5. I feel like I barely see him anymore. It kind of makes me sad..Autumn always looks for him too.
I really hope him going to school will help. I just hope one day I can have an actual conversation with him.
They had their birthday party last week. It went pretty well!! He only had a couple meltdowns..I told my family I didnt want to sing the happy birthday song because he hates it and cries when people sing it loudly. They of course started singing it and he was crying so bad..it was sad. But, he got over it pretty quick. It was a good turn out. His therapists said they would come but they didnt end up coming..and didnt really tell me they were so that kind of hurt me..but oh well.
Anywho, nothing really new besides that.
Today we went to the Irvine Regional Park. I love that park! it is so nice! D had a new play group there at the zoo. Not many people showed up for the play group but it was still fun! We will have to go to that park more often. They have a lot of things to do there.
I really hope him going to school will help. I just hope one day I can have an actual conversation with him.
They had their birthday party last week. It went pretty well!! He only had a couple meltdowns..I told my family I didnt want to sing the happy birthday song because he hates it and cries when people sing it loudly. They of course started singing it and he was crying so bad..it was sad. But, he got over it pretty quick. It was a good turn out. His therapists said they would come but they didnt end up coming..and didnt really tell me they were so that kind of hurt me..but oh well.
Anywho, nothing really new besides that.
Today we went to the Irvine Regional Park. I love that park! it is so nice! D had a new play group there at the zoo. Not many people showed up for the play group but it was still fun! We will have to go to that park more often. They have a lot of things to do there.
Thursday, March 3, 2011
my little D
I haven't posted in a bit..
but the play group went great! Devyn started his new OT a few weeks ago and they have swings there. That was a number one thing that D hates at the playground!! But, he went on some of the swings there. He must of liked them because we went to his playgroup and he ran up to the swings and said up please up please! He was swinging all by himself for like 20 minutes! He is also using a little big more language. His favorite thing to say now is not yet..to everything! haha..oh, and no of course!
Today was Devyn's last day of ABA therapy with his therapist Jamie. It was sad..I of course was kind of sad..was tearing up at the end. Of course I shed a few tears when she left. I took some pics and a little video. Poor Devyn doesn't understand the whole concept of her leaving and not coming back..that is why I was so sad for the most part.
Gosh, things are going to change a lot in the next couple of weeks. Devyn has been getting therapy services since he was like 20 months..Now, nobody will be coming over and Devyn will be starting pre-school soon and he will be doing all his therapy at the school.
Onto the next subject..we had Devyn's IEP meeting on Monday. It went well, it was longer than i thought it would be. Anywho, I read the report so I pretty much already knew what to expect. The report made me a little sad..pretty much stated how Devyn is pretty delayed in communication, etc. Gosh, he is so smart though. He does great at matching and naming object and animals, etc. He can count to ten and he knows his abc's. Anyway, they said they want to put him in the 'success' class. It is the class I wanted him to be in. It is a smaller class and more individualized. He will be going to school M, T, TH, F from 8:35-1:35. He also got ABA therapy, OT, and speech therapy services, which they take him out of class for and bring him back. He will also be taking the bus, which I'm pretty nervous about. I wish I could take him everyday..but, we only have one car right now and it would be pretty difficult to do that every day. I'm gong to be so lonely! Well, of course I have Autumn!! but she has been sleeping a lot during the day lately..
We went to another Autism night at Pretend city on Monday night. It was really fun!! Devyn actually did more than just drive around in the cars! He played in the art studio, the theater, the beach, the play house, the construction site area..I still couldn't get him to play in the pretend Ralph's grocery store though. So I took Autumn instead hah. I think Devyn loves the art studio the best, he even made some paintings!!! He didnt even freak out at all when he got paint on his hands!
I think he really is making a little big of improvement! Especially with his sensory issues. I think his ASD playgroup and monthly Pretend City trips are really helping him!
I think that is all for now..
Tomorrow is Devyn's last day of aba therapy with his therapist Kris. Its his last day altogether. AH! so sad..I bet I will tear up again..like today! I'm such a big baby. I invited his therapists to his and Autumn's birthday party. I hope they come. Devyn would be so excited!
My next post will be about D starting pre-school...awwww..my baby is growing up! He will be 3 on Monday and Autumn will be 1 on Tuesday..CRAZYYYYY!! Then their birthday is next Sunday..I hope it is a success!!
I love my babies! <3
but the play group went great! Devyn started his new OT a few weeks ago and they have swings there. That was a number one thing that D hates at the playground!! But, he went on some of the swings there. He must of liked them because we went to his playgroup and he ran up to the swings and said up please up please! He was swinging all by himself for like 20 minutes! He is also using a little big more language. His favorite thing to say now is not yet..to everything! haha..oh, and no of course!
Today was Devyn's last day of ABA therapy with his therapist Jamie. It was sad..I of course was kind of sad..was tearing up at the end. Of course I shed a few tears when she left. I took some pics and a little video. Poor Devyn doesn't understand the whole concept of her leaving and not coming back..that is why I was so sad for the most part.
Gosh, things are going to change a lot in the next couple of weeks. Devyn has been getting therapy services since he was like 20 months..Now, nobody will be coming over and Devyn will be starting pre-school soon and he will be doing all his therapy at the school.
Onto the next subject..we had Devyn's IEP meeting on Monday. It went well, it was longer than i thought it would be. Anywho, I read the report so I pretty much already knew what to expect. The report made me a little sad..pretty much stated how Devyn is pretty delayed in communication, etc. Gosh, he is so smart though. He does great at matching and naming object and animals, etc. He can count to ten and he knows his abc's. Anyway, they said they want to put him in the 'success' class. It is the class I wanted him to be in. It is a smaller class and more individualized. He will be going to school M, T, TH, F from 8:35-1:35. He also got ABA therapy, OT, and speech therapy services, which they take him out of class for and bring him back. He will also be taking the bus, which I'm pretty nervous about. I wish I could take him everyday..but, we only have one car right now and it would be pretty difficult to do that every day. I'm gong to be so lonely! Well, of course I have Autumn!! but she has been sleeping a lot during the day lately..
We went to another Autism night at Pretend city on Monday night. It was really fun!! Devyn actually did more than just drive around in the cars! He played in the art studio, the theater, the beach, the play house, the construction site area..I still couldn't get him to play in the pretend Ralph's grocery store though. So I took Autumn instead hah. I think Devyn loves the art studio the best, he even made some paintings!!! He didnt even freak out at all when he got paint on his hands!
I think he really is making a little big of improvement! Especially with his sensory issues. I think his ASD playgroup and monthly Pretend City trips are really helping him!
I think that is all for now..
Tomorrow is Devyn's last day of aba therapy with his therapist Kris. Its his last day altogether. AH! so sad..I bet I will tear up again..like today! I'm such a big baby. I invited his therapists to his and Autumn's birthday party. I hope they come. Devyn would be so excited!
My next post will be about D starting pre-school...awwww..my baby is growing up! He will be 3 on Monday and Autumn will be 1 on Tuesday..CRAZYYYYY!! Then their birthday is next Sunday..I hope it is a success!!
I love my babies! <3
Wednesday, February 16, 2011
Devyn is turning 3 soon and that means his aba therapy will end! I'm sure I'll cry or something! haha. He loves them and the saddest part is that he wont even understand that it will be the last time he will see them. He will just say Bye, See you..just like any other session ending. So sad..
But, he will be starting preschool soon! I'm pretty nervous because he has been extremely aggressive lately. Pushing and kicking autumn alllll the time, a lot more meltdowns, sleep issues, feeding issues as usual. We went to a little valentines day party my friend hosted. About 7 or so kids were there and Devyn was just in his own little world. He ignored all the kids the majority of the time. He has an obsession with bins and he will push them around the house and put anything he can find in them and dump everything out and put everything back in. He will do that over and over again and when the kids tried to play with him he would try to push them down. He even got into a fight with another kid. We had to leave early because he kept having meltdowns. Not a good night. :(
I don't know what I'm going to do with myself while Devyn is at school. I'm not sure what the hours will be yet because we haven't gone to his IEP meeting yet..but I'm going to be so bored and lonely!!! haha. I'm going to miss my little crazy man..
Devyn has another play group on saturday! I hope it doesnt rain!!!
But, he will be starting preschool soon! I'm pretty nervous because he has been extremely aggressive lately. Pushing and kicking autumn alllll the time, a lot more meltdowns, sleep issues, feeding issues as usual. We went to a little valentines day party my friend hosted. About 7 or so kids were there and Devyn was just in his own little world. He ignored all the kids the majority of the time. He has an obsession with bins and he will push them around the house and put anything he can find in them and dump everything out and put everything back in. He will do that over and over again and when the kids tried to play with him he would try to push them down. He even got into a fight with another kid. We had to leave early because he kept having meltdowns. Not a good night. :(
I don't know what I'm going to do with myself while Devyn is at school. I'm not sure what the hours will be yet because we haven't gone to his IEP meeting yet..but I'm going to be so bored and lonely!!! haha. I'm going to miss my little crazy man..
Devyn has another play group on saturday! I hope it doesnt rain!!!
Thursday, February 10, 2011
update!
last update i made was about pretend city..it was fun!
it was actually really cool. turns out they are going to start having this event every month. so, im hoping we can take d every month. i think he had a lot of fun. but, i dont think he understood a lot of it. he doesnt do a whole lot of pretend play. he does with a few things. but he didnt understand a lot of it. i was trying to interact with him and i was trying to get him to get involved but he was really concentrating on the cars. he just wanted to ride around in the cars. after about an hour doing that i actually got him to go play in the sand at the pretend beach. he also played in the little pre-school. the ladies loved him in there! he was so obsessed with this car that the kids made. they made it with tin foil, boxes, buttons, glitter, etc. but so weird...once we got home..he took it to his room and was playing with it. then the next minute it is completely destroyed! he literally destroyed it to bits! ill have to upload pictures soon.
i want to get him more pretend play toys for his birthday coming up.
like a pretend kitchen, play food, shopping cart, etc. still not sure what to get autumn. she has a lot of toys.
i decided to have a little party for them. i just want to keep it simple and small. but im creative so there has to be a theme..and im making cupcakes! haha. im not sure who to invite though..i want it to be small. but i feel like if i dont invite people they might get offended...i dont know. its hard because i want to celebrate but i dont want devyn to get upset.
anywho, devyn finally finished all his assessments. next, we have our IEP meeting on the 28th to discuss the results of the assessments then they will tell us what class they think fits him best. i hope he gets into the one i want him too. we will see! it will be a big adjustment for him...but i hope he does okay!
it was actually really cool. turns out they are going to start having this event every month. so, im hoping we can take d every month. i think he had a lot of fun. but, i dont think he understood a lot of it. he doesnt do a whole lot of pretend play. he does with a few things. but he didnt understand a lot of it. i was trying to interact with him and i was trying to get him to get involved but he was really concentrating on the cars. he just wanted to ride around in the cars. after about an hour doing that i actually got him to go play in the sand at the pretend beach. he also played in the little pre-school. the ladies loved him in there! he was so obsessed with this car that the kids made. they made it with tin foil, boxes, buttons, glitter, etc. but so weird...once we got home..he took it to his room and was playing with it. then the next minute it is completely destroyed! he literally destroyed it to bits! ill have to upload pictures soon.
i want to get him more pretend play toys for his birthday coming up.
like a pretend kitchen, play food, shopping cart, etc. still not sure what to get autumn. she has a lot of toys.
i decided to have a little party for them. i just want to keep it simple and small. but im creative so there has to be a theme..and im making cupcakes! haha. im not sure who to invite though..i want it to be small. but i feel like if i dont invite people they might get offended...i dont know. its hard because i want to celebrate but i dont want devyn to get upset.
anywho, devyn finally finished all his assessments. next, we have our IEP meeting on the 28th to discuss the results of the assessments then they will tell us what class they think fits him best. i hope he gets into the one i want him too. we will see! it will be a big adjustment for him...but i hope he does okay!
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